” It’s the dreaded “Defining The Relationship” talk… The DTR talk has achieved an almost mythical level of terror amongst people – especially men, because it almost always comes at the worst possible moment, and suddenly you have to make decisions that will affect you for the rest of your relationship.For many men, it represents a massive, possibly undesirable, change in the nature of your relationship with this person. As much as it would be nice to have a handy rule of thumb like “three weeks after you start sleeping together” or a concrete date, every relationship is different and, as a result, the timing will be different as well.If they care about your feelings on the matter, they will actually respect that you want to give this important discussion the attention it deserves.
One person’s “casual” means “non-exclusive, sex only” while another’s means “we only see each other once a week”.
Side note: These guidelines are assuming that the frequency you’re seeing each other or talking is a mutual decision.
If one of you wants more than the other is providing, it’s better to talk it out earlier instead of letting the resentment grow.
Straight talk: there are two phrases that a woman can say that will instill ball-shrinking terror in the heart of every man.
The first is “We need to talk.” The second is “Where do you think this relationship is going?